Winton Eliott
When I think about the people who have hurt me in the past, I am reminded of the saying ‘hurt people hurt people.’
I realize that the people who have hurt me were probably themselves hurting, and they were taking their pain out on me. I don’t hold anything against them; instead, I try to understand where they are coming from.
I also try to forgive them because forgiveness is key to moving on from the past.
By forgiving those who have hurt me, I am able to let go of the anger and resentment that I feel. As a result, I am able to live more fully in the present moment.
In other words, I don’t let my past define me; instead, I define myself by how I choose to react to what has happened.
What is causing me to feel this way?
There are several reasons why you feel that you hate people. It includes:
People who have hurt me in the past
There is no easy way to deal with being hurt by someone.
Whether it is a close friend or family member who betrays your trust or a romantic partner who breaks your heart, the pain and sense of betrayal can be overwhelming.
It is natural to want to protect yourself from further hurt by withdrawing from relationships and shutting yourself off from others.
However, this only leads to more loneliness and isolation.
Feeling misunderstood or not accepted by society
Not fitting in or feeling like an outsider can be isolating and lead to a dislike for those around you who seem to have an easier time fitting in.
This can also stem from past negative experiences with peers or feeling like you were constantly judged and criticized by others.
These emotions can lead to a generalized dislike for those around you, even though it may not be the individuals themselves that are the problem but rather your own feelings of being misunderstood or not accepted.
Low self-esteem and insecurity
Feeling insecure about yourself can lead to a dislike for others, as you may feel that they are somehow better or more worthy than you.
This can also manifest as envy towards those who seem to have qualities or possessions that you desire.
It is important to work on building your self-confidence and self-love in order to overcome these negative thoughts and emotions.
It is important to acknowledge and work through these feelings in order to move past them and find a more positive outlook on life and others.
It may be helpful to seek therapy or talk to a trusted friend or family member about your experiences and emotions. Remember that you are not alone in feeling this way, and there is hope for growth and healing.
How do I change my attitude toward people?
There is no easy solution to changing your attitude towards others, as it may be the result of deep-seated emotions and past experiences.
However, there are steps that you can take in order to work towards a more positive mindset.
Forgive those who have hurt you
Forgiveness can be a difficult and daunting task, but it is important in order to let go of anger and resentment towards those who have hurt us.
It does not mean condoning their actions or excusing their behavior, but rather choosing to release the negative emotions and move on from the pain.
This can help improve your relationships with others and also improve your own mental well-being.
Practice self-compassion and self-love
It is important to remember that you are worthy of love and forgiveness, both from others and yourself.
Practicing self-care and treating yourself with kindness can help to boost your self-esteem and confidence, leading to a more positive outlook on yourself and those around you.
Challenge negative thoughts
Recognize negative or judgmental thoughts towards others and challenge them. Ask yourself if these thoughts are fair or based on your own insecurities and prejudices.
Be open to learning about and understanding others instead of immediately closing yourself off due to past experiences or assumptions.
Let go of anger and resentment
Holding onto anger towards others can be harmful to both your mental well-being and your relationships with others.
It is important to learn how to let go of these negative emotions in order to move forward and improve your attitude toward those around you.
This may involve therapy or seeking support from a trusted individual.
Surround yourself with supportive and loving individuals
Surrounding yourself with supportive and caring individuals can have a positive impact on your attitude toward others.
These relationships can serve as role models for healthy and positive interactions, helping to challenge negative thoughts and emotions.
Focus on the good in others
Instead of fixating on negative traits or actions, try to focus on and appreciate the good in others. This can help to shift your perspective and improve your attitude towards them.
Practice empathy
Empathy involves understanding and being able to relate to the emotions and experiences of others.
Practicing empathy can help to improve your relationships with those around you and also challenge negative thoughts or prejudices.
This can involve actively listening to others, putting yourself in their shoes, and trying to understand where they are coming from.
Final thought
It is important to remember that everyone experiences envy at some point in their lives. Envy can be a powerful emotion, leading us to feel negative thoughts and emotions towards those who we perceive as being ‘better’ than us.
While it may be difficult, it is important to work through these feelings in order to find a more positive outlook on life.
This may involve seeking therapy or talking to a trusted friend or family member about your experiences and emotions. Remember that you are not alone in feeling this way, and there is hope for growth and healing.
